/ 10:04 PM

Just some thoughts here.. My dad still misinterprets me.. Parents are real prone to think that their adolescent children are acting bold towards them, when it may not be so.. Just coz the Y Generation of today truely has a completely different attitude from decades ago.. And perhaps this is what makes parents of today keep their guard up.. When parents misunderstanding their kids, that is how the 'vow of silence' comes about.. If you had watched the movie "Little Miss Sunshine", you'll know what I'm talking abt yeah.. The adolescent son in the movie is the typical rebellious kid in the family.. And he's the one who takes a vow of silence, and carries a silly notepad with him everywhere he goes to scribble a few words whenever he needs to communicate.. Haha.. But this character still has a very interesting style.. He actually wears a yellow t-shirt in the movie that says, "Jesus Was Wrong".. Muahaha =X

But you would know that this guy doesn't take the vow of silence to be rude or defiant.. His parents simply had no time for him.. But the movie is meant to be heart-warming, and show that deep down the family members still have heartfelt care for each other, and so the guy's parents didn't have time for him not bcoz they didn't care abt him, but rather bcoz they were caught up with their own adult arguments and financial problems.. Adult World VS Adolescent World.. Battle Royale too has one such theme.. The gap between parent and child comes abt due to such a issue yar.. There's plenty to think abt for such an issue.. But I wun go into it.. Hehh

And I'm not aiming this at my dad at all yar.. My dad and I dun have that bad a relationship at all.. I juz find the communication is a little lacking only.. And as I was saying abt the guy taking the vow of silence right, he wasn't doing it to be defiant, but it's simply coz he didn't want to care anymore. Just have to look at his sloppiness, and Jay Chou-length fringe, and it all reflects the heck-care attitude..X) Why this heck-care attitude then? It's coz the understanding btwn parent and child is juz not going to be there.. You will just know it.. Then nothing can be done abt it, so how to care right.. It's just a case of different characters..

And that's why kids will keep to themselves lo.. Parents will go, "I'm talking to you! Why aren't you answering? Becoming rude arh!" But more often than not, the child may be thinking there's no point to answer, coz the result of the argument will be the same.. Parents' victory.. And once they think you're being rude, and you try to explain.. May worsen things instead, cos you will appear to be talking back! Futile situation right..=/

Here's another reason why teenage kids keep silent, not bcoz they're being rude, but definitely coz it's just futile.. With the parent raising the voice in accusation, "Are you being rude??", wouldn't the child want to defend oneself even more? But of course.. And yet, sad case.. Have to control and just dun say anything.. What for say anything.. Can you imagine the kid replying, "Oh no, I wasn't being rude", and the parent straightaway accept, and the argument is dissolved? No such scenario lah.. So the kid is actually not being rude when he/she keeps silent! He/she is actually trying not to be rude! I mean, after the parent's accusation, you would want to fire back a whole lot of things in defense, but you dun bcoz that will give you real trouble for really being rude then.. See the big fat irony?

The complication of such things will never cease.. But we all still have to go about dealing with it all as best as we can.. But fundamentally, shouldn't parents take the first steps to improve the situation? They are the parents afterall right.. It's not asking for much.. But at the dinner table, parents can be the first to show interest in their children's lives e.g. "So you got any problems with your exams?" etc.. Children are not born being distanced from their parents.. Something can be done to build up a close relationship..

The only reasons there are for a strained relationship btwn parent and child is one, character clash.. And two, no time to even try and understand each other.. We have to devote so much time to our own daily tasks, and as a result, we can't make the effort to share the life of another.. These reasons wld then show that actually, strained relationships is perhaps noone's fault.. Nobody would intentionally make it happen.. It's just that we may be too different from each other, and only can hit it off with some other person with a compatible character.. But there will be exceptions to this idea of coz.. Some ppl you stay away from, not bcoz their characters clash with yours, but bcoz their characters repel you.. Distasteful characters in other words.. This kind of characters, we will always have to learn to identify and deal with.. Ok, this was a bit of a deviation from what I was originally saying.. Hehe

But actually my dad just talked nicely to me a while ago.. So I never stay fed up either.. And therefore it really is true when ppl say that the way to maintaining a good relationship is to never let the anger due to an argument last beyond a day.. But of coz this kind of rule requires both parties to follow..

And after all that I've said, I can settle for the conclusion that maybe it doesn't really matter that there's a bit of a lack of communication btwn me and my father.. Coz I will come to see that all that matters will be the love which I know is there, and which I can always count on..

And I think all that I've said above also tell me somewhat that the relationship btwn me and my mother.. just.. happened.. No definite why.. Life doesn't always give you the power to fix every situation there is.. And I still try to keep in mind.. I had said that I wldn't want to give her reason to worry abt me.. I said it on the day of her cremation.. It seems unreal but I've gone through that.. And coz I wldn't want to give her reason to worry abt me, I said I wld try hard.. And I will try hard in whatever I do.. Even if studying can take away some of this natural drive..

Ok, I'm done with all the emoting. Hah.. To round off this blog post, guess what the guy who took the vow of silence in the movie first said when he broke his vow? It's one word..

He went, "Fuuuuuuuccccccck!!!!!!!!!!" No kidding.. I'm not being vulgar, but that's exactly the way he said it, or in fact yelled it.. Lolz.. Interesting right..=X Watch the movie then if you wanna find out why.. I didn't review it here, coz I actually expected more from the movie.. Just like any other family sitcom, maybe just slightly better.. But the scene with the guy breaking his vow of silence with that word is indeed original..=)

write about yourself here like how you lived through a crisis like the morrocian crisis. erps, have you studied about that before and about your test, how easy it is and how much confidence you have to pass and get all A1s for all subjects, add in your own wish here, and what you would do if target is not reached, like slash your wrist, eat many many painkiller pills at one shot and die. lol it's suicidal thoughts. stay away from that. but you need to enter a reality, everyone's doing that- it's the trend, so why not follow it. unless you want to be an odd one out. cause slashing wrist is soo common in girls school not in boys school. boys suicide, just like die gracefully from 30th storey, just look on the bright side, maybe you have lived in a lie too long and so you have found out the turth now, just think. optimist wins. you have entered into a world of reality



We know life's hard, truth is hard, lies are hard, they are all hard to accept when they have been found out, and i'm rushing history homework on the Abyissian Crisis about Italy and Abyssia going into war and that the League Of Nations cannot stop this from happening, and beacuse they are formed by means to stop war and peace-keep the countries together, they have thus failed to achieve that. I think i tend to hold a class for history instead of telling you about me, i'm basically a what subject-realted lover (humanities) and thus I am more analytical and critical about things, and likes to study about dead people, haha. lol. it's history what can you expect and also geography, it amazes me. I really like it alot, so what have you? Again to find this answer you need to enter into your own reality and reflect




it's amazing. amzing how people change the way of things, like how I used to hate outdoors in Band felt it was a complete waste of time, i've acquired to like it more, i guess people change, their thereotical means and applications in life just goes on into a new direction, and see things in another perspective, i guess- it's all in the mind. It really amazes me how these comes into action, from someone so pessimistic has changed his own view of things, and thus my friend is scoring much better, being more optimisitc and not think of his old way of suicidal thoughts, which are pretty daunting. and thus we need to see things, in another light, another perspective and another new way, to enable us to open up our minds, and make more new things, the new way it is. done with the old back with the new

i've hiatus-ed.

/ 10:04 PM

Just some thoughts here.. My dad still misinterprets me.. Parents are real prone to think that their adolescent children are acting bold towards them, when it may not be so.. Just coz the Y Generation of today truely has a completely different attitude from decades ago.. And perhaps this is what makes parents of today keep their guard up.. When parents misunderstanding their kids, that is how the 'vow of silence' comes about.. If you had watched the movie "Little Miss Sunshine", you'll know what I'm talking abt yeah.. The adolescent son in the movie is the typical rebellious kid in the family.. And he's the one who takes a vow of silence, and carries a silly notepad with him everywhere he goes to scribble a few words whenever he needs to communicate.. Haha.. But this character still has a very interesting style.. He actually wears a yellow t-shirt in the movie that says, "Jesus Was Wrong".. Muahaha =X

But you would know that this guy doesn't take the vow of silence to be rude or defiant.. His parents simply had no time for him.. But the movie is meant to be heart-warming, and show that deep down the family members still have heartfelt care for each other, and so the guy's parents didn't have time for him not bcoz they didn't care abt him, but rather bcoz they were caught up with their own adult arguments and financial problems.. Adult World VS Adolescent World.. Battle Royale too has one such theme.. The gap between parent and child comes abt due to such a issue yar.. There's plenty to think abt for such an issue.. But I wun go into it.. Hehh

And I'm not aiming this at my dad at all yar.. My dad and I dun have that bad a relationship at all.. I juz find the communication is a little lacking only.. And as I was saying abt the guy taking the vow of silence right, he wasn't doing it to be defiant, but it's simply coz he didn't want to care anymore. Just have to look at his sloppiness, and Jay Chou-length fringe, and it all reflects the heck-care attitude..X) Why this heck-care attitude then? It's coz the understanding btwn parent and child is juz not going to be there.. You will just know it.. Then nothing can be done abt it, so how to care right.. It's just a case of different characters..

And that's why kids will keep to themselves lo.. Parents will go, "I'm talking to you! Why aren't you answering? Becoming rude arh!" But more often than not, the child may be thinking there's no point to answer, coz the result of the argument will be the same.. Parents' victory.. And once they think you're being rude, and you try to explain.. May worsen things instead, cos you will appear to be talking back! Futile situation right..=/

Here's another reason why teenage kids keep silent, not bcoz they're being rude, but definitely coz it's just futile.. With the parent raising the voice in accusation, "Are you being rude??", wouldn't the child want to defend oneself even more? But of course.. And yet, sad case.. Have to control and just dun say anything.. What for say anything.. Can you imagine the kid replying, "Oh no, I wasn't being rude", and the parent straightaway accept, and the argument is dissolved? No such scenario lah.. So the kid is actually not being rude when he/she keeps silent! He/she is actually trying not to be rude! I mean, after the parent's accusation, you would want to fire back a whole lot of things in defense, but you dun bcoz that will give you real trouble for really being rude then.. See the big fat irony?

The complication of such things will never cease.. But we all still have to go about dealing with it all as best as we can.. But fundamentally, shouldn't parents take the first steps to improve the situation? They are the parents afterall right.. It's not asking for much.. But at the dinner table, parents can be the first to show interest in their children's lives e.g. "So you got any problems with your exams?" etc.. Children are not born being distanced from their parents.. Something can be done to build up a close relationship..

The only reasons there are for a strained relationship btwn parent and child is one, character clash.. And two, no time to even try and understand each other.. We have to devote so much time to our own daily tasks, and as a result, we can't make the effort to share the life of another.. These reasons wld then show that actually, strained relationships is perhaps noone's fault.. Nobody would intentionally make it happen.. It's just that we may be too different from each other, and only can hit it off with some other person with a compatible character.. But there will be exceptions to this idea of coz.. Some ppl you stay away from, not bcoz their characters clash with yours, but bcoz their characters repel you.. Distasteful characters in other words.. This kind of characters, we will always have to learn to identify and deal with.. Ok, this was a bit of a deviation from what I was originally saying.. Hehe

But actually my dad just talked nicely to me a while ago.. So I never stay fed up either.. And therefore it really is true when ppl say that the way to maintaining a good relationship is to never let the anger due to an argument last beyond a day.. But of coz this kind of rule requires both parties to follow..

And after all that I've said, I can settle for the conclusion that maybe it doesn't really matter that there's a bit of a lack of communication btwn me and my father.. Coz I will come to see that all that matters will be the love which I know is there, and which I can always count on..

And I think all that I've said above also tell me somewhat that the relationship btwn me and my mother.. just.. happened.. No definite why.. Life doesn't always give you the power to fix every situation there is.. And I still try to keep in mind.. I had said that I wldn't want to give her reason to worry abt me.. I said it on the day of her cremation.. It seems unreal but I've gone through that.. And coz I wldn't want to give her reason to worry abt me, I said I wld try hard.. And I will try hard in whatever I do.. Even if studying can take away some of this natural drive..

Ok, I'm done with all the emoting. Hah.. To round off this blog post, guess what the guy who took the vow of silence in the movie first said when he broke his vow? It's one word..

He went, "Fuuuuuuuccccccck!!!!!!!!!!" No kidding.. I'm not being vulgar, but that's exactly the way he said it, or in fact yelled it.. Lolz.. Interesting right..=X Watch the movie then if you wanna find out why.. I didn't review it here, coz I actually expected more from the movie.. Just like any other family sitcom, maybe just slightly better.. But the scene with the guy breaking his vow of silence with that word is indeed original..=)